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some hints and tips on getting what you want. We are assuming that it is
possible to get what you want, it is some what realistic. I prefer to believe
that nothing is impossible - and all those 'winners' out there are mere
humans just like me, and are certainly no better than me. Given that the
womb that they came out of was not divinely blessed and that yours was not
cursed. So what is holding you back? A large chunk of the inhibitors are 'inside' not 'outside'...so lets go for it. |
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From an early age
the advertisers have taught us to believe in the quick fix. All will be well in your life is you only possessed certain Things, or follow some fad or some wonder diet/product. So we live in the illusion that possessions on things will fulfill our inner needs, the cotton candy satisfaction of instance gratification. Sadly we learn to sow one thing but in fact reap something unexpectedly different, we don't get the results that we were lead to believed. Also with this comes the Rescue Fantasy where the lottery will make you a millionaire, fining the 'Right' Master (usually a Knight on a white horse) will come and take all your worries away. Fix all your problems - the illusion that somebody or something out there is going to magically solve all your problems and absolve us from the need to do the hard work . More than one slave I know of seems to run from one Master to another, slating the previous, much like the "Greener Grass" syndrome. I don't ever thing it occurred to him that the common factor was him, and that all the other slaves with those Masters seemed contented. The true is there is no quick fix, no one is going to rescue you, you are not going to will the lottery, and if you don't that control of your life and do something to get what you want, all that you will have is more of the same tomorrow and the rest of your life, until you decide you want something better. I cannot think of any Master that is looking to wet nurse a slave ? For me is creates a scary interpretation of the SM role "Daddy" - quite apart from the nurturing role of a Dad.
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Are you the kind of
person you want to be with ? Quality relationships are built on trustworthiness, loyalty, sincerity, honesty, the ability to make and keep commitments, to share, to care, to belong and to love unconditionally. When you are in the pain of unmet need, the last thing you want to hear is that you have to go out there and earn it, to become worthy of someone's trust. Avoid the superficial, the shallow, be someone of depth and substance. This assumes that you are looking for someone other than just sex.
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What can
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You need to step back
and look at your self. For example are you able to stand apart from your
thoughts or feeling and examining and change them. Are you aware of
your scripting why do you do/thing the way you do - where to all the "Musts"
and "Cants" come from ? You need to work out what there REAL limitations are, if any to getting what you. I assume you know what you want don't you ? Have you set your goals based on your value system - like a fast car is not the source of inner peace and satisfaction (though a fast bike can come close :) Ignore the advertising boys, you must understand clearly what you want.
If you are looking for a slave, do you appear attractive to slaves, to the
kind of slave that you are looking for ?
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Creating a new reality |
Do you think ahead
?do you visualised beyond the present reality ? Why not use visualisation to help reaffirm and realise your goals. There are loads of books out there that range from Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP) through to Creative Visualisation. This is one thing I know works. That is How I found my lover of over 16 years, and my Owner of half as much. The old phrase of "Careful for what you wish for..." is never more true. I wished for leather Masters, that were just that, but were crap outside of SM, or had no personality, I wished for lovers only to find that they were not into SM and not accepting of me (great sex but...) in time you learn to wish for what is right for you, not too specific, not down to their waist size. (I even did/got that. A leather/skinhead Master, that was near by, exactly 32" waist, big long dick, loved to fuck, VERY top - The bit that I missed out, well he wanted to fist-fuck me with his Doc Martin boots.) The best way to get started is to visualised it as a movie in your mind, play it as if it is actually happening, like a documentary of what already is. Think bits of it through, so you don't get caught out. Refer back to it as a day dream, but don't hang onto it with a deathly grip. some techniques suggested that you visualise that captured image from the moved into a large soap bubble and see the wind catch it and carry it away, so that it can return to you created in reality. Again loads of techniques. However there is the old joke of begging God
to let you win on the lottery, and God replies "you have to meet me half
way, and buy a Ticket" In my life I know it works 100%, well ok 90%, I still don't have the
fast car, but what with over 80% of the cost of petrol being tax -
I choose to get my thrills from an insanely fast bike used at the weekends,
and something massively practical for the grunt days.
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| There is loads more that I could tell you - you don't want to bore the pants off you. It would not hurt you to read some of Stephen R Coveys books, any of the many 'new age' books on creative visualisation, again its works, its just a tool. | |
