These are self defining individuals who have found a contenting
form of expression that is more complete to them. An attempt is
made here to define some of these terms and what it is that
defines them this way.
The term boy refers to a
submissive partner, regardless of age.
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I've been hearing a lot about boys
lately, but all in the same context, as though there were only
one type of boy. I first became aware of this early in 1990, but
the trend has, if anything, gotten worse.
The type of boy
referred to all the time is a son; that is, a boy who has or is
looking for a Daddy. For some reason, anything else is not
considered a "boy" by most people, whether Top, bottom, or
switch. Yet I have been a "boy" my entire adult life, though not
I lived as a slave from 1978 to 1988; my former
Master and I broke up three days before our tenth anniversary.
To him, to our friends, and to myself, I was a boy; at least,
that's what he called me, as did those people to whom such a
calling was appropriate.
There are three types of boys
that I know of: sons, slaves, and dogs.
Presented here are short definitions of each, with an accent on
the differences as well as the similarities.
The son is the newest type of boy. His ability to be a son to a
Dad is owed entirely to the slaves, who pioneered "boyism", and
A son is the only type of boy who is not
owned by his Top, in this case, a Daddy or Dad (I prefer
the latter appellation, as the former has certain negative
connotations involving sexual favours in exchange for cash or
other negotiable). A son may or may not live with his Dad; the
Dad is not responsible for the son's food, clothing, housing,
etc., or money. A Dad is, however, responsible for ensuring his
son's education in one or more areas, usually at least two: sex
play and one career-oriented field.
While the sex and sex
play of a Dad and son may be similar to those of other types of
roles, a son may say "no" to his Dad. While a Dad is responsible
for his son's sexual education, the son is the one who sets the
A son decides what kind of work he
wants to do, where he will live and work, what to do with his
leisure time apart from his Dad, and so on. If the son lives
with his Dad, he may have certain chores to perform, but the Dad
and son usually share in the upkeep of the home.
is possible for the Dad and son to remain in a stable
relationship for their entire lives, a main focus of the
relationship seems to be preparing the son to become a Dad
himself some day (I say "A main focus", as that is definitely
not THE main focus of any type of sexual/romantic relationship).
Slaves are the original boys. That is, slaves were the first
bottoms to be called boys and continue to be boys to this day.
Without the slaves, the dogs and sons would not have a basis for
their lives. Given my experience, this is obviously the role I
In contrast to the son, the slave is the
property of his Master. He lives where the Master wants him to,
works at the job the Master wants him to, eats, wears, does
everything the Master wants him to. A variation on this is the
slave who is well established in a career, in which case the
Master may allow the slave to continue the career path chosen
prior to their relationship. Either is acceptable, so long as
both parties involved agree to them. The term boy
refers to a submissive partner, regardless of age.
there is the heart of any SM/leather-oriented relationship:
consensuality. The specific parameters must be agreed upon
before the relationship begins. I, for example, will not get
involved with a Master who wants me to give up my career. That
will be a part of any arrangement I make.
The slave may be
required to sign his entire paycheque over to the Master or not,
depending upon the Master's wishes. If this option is chosen by
the Master, however, he should ensure that the slave will never
suffer financial difficulty, as no relationship lasts forever on
this planet; whether through the Master's death or other cause,
the relationship will end eventually.
Generally, a slave
will live with his Master, although not necessarily sleep with
him. Some slaves live separately from their Masters for all or
part of the relationship's length; others not only live with
their Masters, they sleep with them the majority of the time.
Again, this is something the Master usually decides, although it
is normally discussed prior to the inception of the
If the slave is required or allowed to work
outside the home, the Master may decide what field the slave
will work in and what specific place of employment he will apply
to (But see above; this is only the case where the slave has
given the Master that right prior to beginning the
relationship). The Master decides what the slave will wear
(usually nothing at home, in the case of most Masters and slaves
of my acquaintance), eat, etc. The only decisions a slave makes
are those involving how best to serve his Master's interests and
those negotiated beforehand.
The Master is in charge of
sex and sex play (sex is actual sucking and fucking; sex play is
SM, BD, WS, etc.; they may or may not be combined), not just
what and how, but also when. The slave does not initiate either
unless given prior permission by the Master, usually as a reward
for good behaviour. All aspects of the slave's sexual life are
governed by his Master. The Master can loan, rent, or otherwise
temporarily divest himself of the slave, setting whatever limits
are appropriate to the person(s) he is granting temporary
authority to. The slave may or may not know of these limits, at
the Master's option.
The only education for which the
Master is responsible is that of the slave learning to be the
best slave possible and his own education in how best to be a
Master (this is normally taken care of prior to looking for a
slave in the first place, although not always).
is responsible for all duties in the home, including yard work.
If he doesn't know how to do something, it is his responsibility
to let the Master know so that he can be taught. The Master may,
at his own option, decide to assist the slave or to do the job
himself, but the slave may only ask for help when the job is too
big or unfamiliar to do by himself. The slave does not decide
what needs to be done outside of his orders and experience; if
he sees that something he has done before needs to be done, he
does it automatically. If he sees something he hasn't done, he
waits on his Master's orders, although he may point it out to
the Master if he deems it important (for example, if he sees
that a piece of equipment in the Master's garage is about to
lose a part that could cause the Master to lose a hand).
The slave has no rights, no property, and only those privileges
granted to him by his Master. His only duty is to please his
Master; this requires many different talents and skills, as most
Masters want someone to keep house for them as well as keep them
sexually and sadistically satisfied.
While some slaves,
especially those in part time or temporary relationships, are
studying to become Masters themselves some day (one study
indicates that most slaves are of this type), others will remain
slaves until the day they die, whether they have a Master or
not. The lucky ones will have Masters at all times; others will
experience one or two such relationships and have to settle for
another type after that. One only becomes a slave by entering
into a Master/slave relationship in that role; after that, the
boy is automatically a slave until death or desired role change.
The main focus of this relationship is fulfilling the Master's
needs and desires. Stable relationships of this type are
possible, but only if both (or all) members are happy and
comfortable in their roles.
This is the second oldest type of boy to come into existence. It
is also the oddest, being merely a variation of the slave, yet
having a life all its own. There are other types of animals used
in this relationship, but the dog is the most common; the horse
is second most common, but there are nowhere near as many horses
A dog is a boy who lives his life to a greater or lesser extent
as a dog.
There are a number of levels here, from a boy who
has canine expression, to full blown family pet. Likewise there
may or may not be a SM content, hence the use of dogslave
and dogboy to help differentiate. An additional complication is
AlphaDog, the topdog. In a pack you have a lead dog
that is top to all the others, except to the human. Then (like
my owner) he has a big doggy streak, but he is a sadist, and not
one to submit, bit like romping with a Timber Wolf I guess.
The most extreme dog role perception I have come across is the
one where the slaves tongue is damaged so he can only really
bark to communicate, his legs and pelvic were broken to
facilitate doggy posture and the need to walk on all fours.
Spotting a dogboy
When a guy comes onto you
and his 'natural' expression is nuzzling, licking, whimpering -
these are all give away signs. He might not have self-identified
that he is canine yet. However if is responds to praise like
'good boy', scratching the back of his neck, keeping him on the
floor, control via a leather collar and leash, eating a meal
from a dish on the floor, then you know you are onto a winner.
Once a guy has self identified as canine, then there is the
process to determine the scope of this doggy streak, is the dog
going to recognise that at one extreme he is going to give up
human speech and transpose into the role set out below, or is he
just going to have the basics:
Dog dish feeding,
Owners dog chain around his neck,
Sleeps on the floor,
mostly naked except for his dog chain.
If he has clothes, then this might include Chastity shorts, to
stop your mutt playing with himself when he does not have
permission, he may also have leather fist-mitts/paws to control
the use of his hands to more dog like things.
any Animal boy would benefit from a
Septum piercing, as this will make him feel more animal,
especially when the Master/Owner knows how to use it, others
include the slaves Prince Albert in his cock, let alone great
cums, there is nothing quite like it when you Master leads you
my your sex, even in a club he can touch your PA through your
jeans and get a good reaction out of you. Not everyone is into
piericings, but if there were a shopping list for an slave, then
his septum, PA and tits would be required - all of the slaves
that I have owned have had this, and not regretted it once.
The dog "speaks" in barks and growls, he wears no clothing other
than a collar, he lives with his Owner (usually called a
"Master", but for the purposes of this article, I want to point
up the differences by using a different word), he eats dog food
from a dish on the floor, he does not work outside the home and
probably not inside the home, etc. Sex and sex play may or may
not enter into this type of relationship, and always at the
In this type of relationship, the Owner
makes all the decisions, period. The only decision the dog makes
is whether or not to enter into the relationship in the first
place. The dog is subject to obedience training at all times and
in any situation. He is simply no longer human once he has
decided to become a dog. While there may be times (as when
outsiders are present) that the dog may be allowed or ordered to
act as a human being, by and large he does not.
At the end
of the day, he always knows what he is, an animal, a beautiful
dog slave, their to be owned and used. The poor bitch is naked
without a dog tag and chain locked on his neck, a stray, hardly
an animal without one, and yet a good Master can spot the animal
No matter what or where he is in life, his core is
K9, animal slave, his only home in a cage or securely chained
sleeping at the foot of his Masters bed, his place the floor
feeding from his dish or off the floor itself. It is cruel to
expect the dog to eat with a knife and fork, to make him human,
for that is not what he is.
Care and training of the male slave for more info.
only time this becomes a problem is in the event of the Owner's
death. A good Owner will ensure that the dog will not have any
problems with living after his death, but that may be in the
nature of securing a new Owner for the dog rather than financial
arrangements. Either way, these arrangements should be made as
soon as it becomes clear that the relationship is viable.
The only other problem here is a minor one: a dog's Owner should
have a large, fenced-in back yard, unless he is willing to allow
the dog come out of role and use the toilet. This is not the
type of dog you can walk naked down Main Street, after all.
These types of relationships can be the most stable of all, as
long as the boy has a true need or desire to live as a dog. I
would suggest a trial period of a year or so as a test of the
sincerity of the boy's desire.
There are some considerations that are common to all three types
of boy. For example, health is a primary issue, especially in
these days of AIDS. While a son is usually allowed to gauge his
own state of health, the slave and dog usually are not.
Therefore, the Master and Owner must be constantly aware of the
health of their slaves and dogs. An ill slave cannot serve as
effectively as a healthy one; a healthy dog is more playful and
obedient than a sick one.
One of the differences between
the three types of boy is the use of furniture. The son is
usually allowed to use his Dad's furniture; the slave may or may
not have the privilege; the dog usually is not allowed on the
furniture (other than the bed during sex). Again, though, these
options are usually up to the Top in the relationship.
Finally, there is the question of multiple relationships. I know
of several instances where a Top has more than one boy,
sometimes more than one type of boy. I know of one Top who has
several sons, a slave, and a dog; additionally, one of his sons
has a dog of his own. In such a situation, the Top must always
remain perfectly clear of the nature of his relationship with
each boy; confusion is not always possible to avoid, but it is
necessary to try.
I know that not everyone will agree with
everything I have said; in fact, I am certain that a number of
people will automatically disagree with the whole piece, some on
the grounds that a boy should not write something like this in
the first place. This just points up the differences between
individuals. I have tried to write a general piece about the
different types of boys of which I am aware; while I have gone
into some specifics, I am aware that most, if not all, of those
are decided in the negotiation process prior to starting a
Most of the point I have been trying to make
in this article is that slaves and dogs are boys, too, and that
those of us who are not sons should not be summarily dismissed
from the status we have worked hard to achieve and which most of
us feel to be the best title that we can be accorded: boys.
Note: This article was written some time ago, at the
request of the editor of 'Scene', the official newsletter for
Vancouver Activists in SM (VASM). My life has changed
dramatically since the time it was written; now, instead of
being a slave, I own some slaves. I decided to let the article
stand as originally written, however, for two reasons: One, it
was written by someone who thought of himself as a boy at the
time, and two, you never know...I might still meet the Master
who could put me back in a collar (but I'm not giving up
breathing or sex until I do!). Anyway, enjoy and e-mail me if
you have any comments.
So what of Dog, Dogslaves and Slaves
article covers them in isolation. There are those who just want
to be a Dog or just a slave. The Dog
has no human qualities, these have been expunged, where as the
Dogboy has some human qualities, but these are not SM
orientated, the Dog Slave as the SM parts.
For example you
would not leave your dog hog-tied, but could do this to a
dogslave, a dog boy would not be bound, he may have punishment
only as an exception, a swift rap over the nose with a rolled up
newspaper, or a shape resounding NO! should be
enough. Not so for the dogslave. Like wise the time of
correction is there and then, the dog has no notion of a
'punishment book' where all his 'crimes' are recorded along with
punishments given. This is something that the slave part might
look forward to.
There are a number of kinds of dog, Stray,
Pet through to Working Dog, Guard Dog. Additional animal boy
profile. They each have a set of needs which are addressed
A slave/submissive into shit, piss dirt and filth -
likes/requires to be treated like the dirty farm animal or the
sewer rat that he is.
Shit/filth scenes are said to
demonstrate the utter devotion to the Master (i will even do
this - the most repulsive extreme that i can imagine), like what
more can i do to demonstrate my devotion, i have done everything
However there are shit scenes totally devoid of any SM or power
play, though it is likely that his head space is in a very dirty
place, in a image that might be his future, or one that is not
physically possible - yet satisfied the "feeling".
Visually he may have a zero crop (yet aggressive bonehead skins
do), and a septum piercing (this one really makes a difference -
get one), some may even have "pig" tattooed on the inside bottom
When you are really happy with what you are you can
make more permanent expressions on your boys - stronger that
having the words "pig", "filth" written with shit on your body -
yet all things change, take the ring out for a few days, you
won't get it back in again, a tattoo is different.
A slave/submissive that likes to be treated like a creature of
burden, feeling the weight of his Master upon him, and the feel
of control to the 'bit' in his mouth.